BV COLUNM - MY STORY

Aunty Lay please I really need your advise and those of your blog visitors

While in school I met a guy, we didn't date. We never had sex or anything intimate. This guy was just my friend, a very good one. He was in need of a girlfriend as at then but he had certain requirements which I didn't meet up to. I was just a 300level student who just got disvirgined and heartbroken at the same time.

We'ld hang out late, club, we were a crazy duo. Cee took me places and once we went to Dublin together(while waiting for Nysc). Cee never tried touching me,he never mistakenly brushed my boobs, more like he sisterzoned me. He still didn't have a girlfriend. He had this crazy crush on one of our mutual friends who was a nurse.( now i realise it was all a facade)

Well I graduated and relocated back home Abuja.

My boyfriend(the disvirginee) now came back into my life when I was serving. That he's sorry and we can work bla bla bla

Note: I never had sex after the first time I did.

I played along because I never really chopped that guy(as a naive Virgin).

So he kept sending me money because we were in separate cities. 

I served in Lagos while Cee and Le boyfriend stay in Ph.

I told Cee about Le boyfriend and he only said i should be wise and all. Cee hardly talks sha

Then i met another guy(Hilton)while serving, we clicked from day one.

We started dating 

He tried making love but I had zero knowledge on all the tactics. I was shy. I can talk about it but put me inside room, I'll be so scared.

Finally I told him I'd only had sex once. I told him everything about me, i told him about Cee and Le boyfriend. I loved Hilton so much.

I finally had the courage to break up with Le boyfriend and I reduced communication with Cee.

Cee only said "I hope he's worth it".

And YES!! we had all the crazy sex(it's overrated IMO)

I was such a bad friend to Cee. He lost his brother and i didnt reach out to him. When i finally did, he was so angry at me but we reconciled and started talking again,nothing deep. We've been talking for over 6months now.

Then I learnt from someone that he's getting married in october to one of his ex.

When I confronted him last night, He told me I left him with no choice. 

See ehn! this guy never reached out to me. We used to joke about me marrying his brother in the states.We used to joke nastily, this is someone who gave me all the exposure. My first trip outside the country, my first car in school, my first laptop.My present business he wrote my proposal. I'm supposed to be in Ph on monday to meet a client he is introducing me to. We are business partners. He invested in my biz, he owns greater profit though

I and Hilary broke up, apparently I was his side chick. I found out and walked.  

Well yesterday there was plenty of talking, and i finally told Cee about the break up(he asked about Hilary and since we were being open).

Cee wants us back,It's crazy. 

He wants to call off his engagement, I don't want him to, here's my fix.

I asked about his fiancee, they have broken up twice during their courtship. But really I don't wanna be the reason for someone's pain.

I also like Cee, he's a big figure in my life. 

His offer goes thus; marry me because I love You more and i know you feel something for me

Marrying him puts me on a better edge financially, business wise and all. But I feel the love thing is not there. My heart don't skip for Cee

I'm confused. 

Should I marry Cee and face being tagged a bf snatcher? I look like one already, his fiancee is his ex which he has known before my existence.

Should I just focus on starting afresh?

Meanwhile the moment he marries his fiancee, we have to cut all ties(including business).

My business is my passion, I love it. 

I'm on the verge of dumping what I just started for one of the big 4. 

Cee believes in me,funny enough my parents are bent on me taking the job.

Cee is 30,I am 24,Fiancee is 28.